As a working mom, I struggle with so much....am I a good mom, am I a good wife, and am I in general a good person.
Most days I feel like I am so inadequate in all three of those areas, and its frustrating. I was looking back at pictures this morning thinking "man alive, I had it all together at some point....what happened?" Well I'm pretty sure life happened, anxiety and depression happened and the general apathetic mindset happened.
My question to myself and others...how do you change this mindset...I know I can do all these things and be the best person I can...I have good intentions but sticking to the goals and plans I feel sometimes is impossible. I get inside my own head to much and then talk myself out of so much and tell myself I can't do this, and then I believe it. How do I get back to the mindset of when I was disciplined and walking 3+ miles a day and very particular about how I ate.
Depression and Anxiety tend to rob a person of so much and can make a person so apathetic and not want to take care of yourself. I need to overcome this...I'm not afraid to say that I take medication everyday to help this, but I also need to flip that switch...I feel better when I work out and eat better, and I feel like I have my D/A under control better, but man alive it is powerful and can have a strong thumb hold on your life when you don't manage it. Mental health is just as important or even more important that physical health. Mental Health has such a strong baring on how you feel physically, but yet people are so ashamed to admit they are struggling...would you be ashamed to say "I had a heart attack and I need to be on high blood pressure medicine, or I am diabetic and I need to take insulin everyday" NO...you wouldn't....then why should I be ashamed to tell people that I am struggling and need to take medicine for my mental health. It makes me angry.
Comment below if you have any ideas on how to change this stigma, or how to help someone switch their mindset....everyone deserves to be happy and everyone deserves to have coping skills to make their lives happy and less stressful.
Stress is NOT a bad word....you just need to learn how to manage your stress....Stress should be something you experience and think "OK...this is how my body is going to react to this situation and I am going nail it and make the best out of it" instead of "OH SHIT, I'm stressed and life is going to be difficult."
Be brave....be strong and be HAPPY!!!
Please everyone reach out to one person....genuinely wish them a Merry Christmas or Happy Holidays and tell them they are a good person and they are doing OK as a person!!!!
SJB
Thursday, December 19, 2019
Wednesday, December 11, 2019
The Elf is on Strike
Well Bilbo, The Elf, is on strike until behaviors improve! As much as I hate moving that elf every night, the power he holds is amazing!! This morning went so smoothly and no one screamed or yelled and everyone got ready without protest! It was amazing! HAHAHA
If only it worked on kids in HS....maybe they would rethink some of the decisions they make in and out of class!? I am amazed at the disrespect the kids have toward teachers and other adults in the classroom and school...If I would have spoken or treated a teacher the way some of these kids do I would have been slapped up one side and down the other! (Pretty sure that is what some of these kids need!)
For everyone in the deep freeze of Iowa that is reading this please stay warm....its a balmy 6 degrees BRRRRRRR!!!
If only it worked on kids in HS....maybe they would rethink some of the decisions they make in and out of class!? I am amazed at the disrespect the kids have toward teachers and other adults in the classroom and school...If I would have spoken or treated a teacher the way some of these kids do I would have been slapped up one side and down the other! (Pretty sure that is what some of these kids need!)
For everyone in the deep freeze of Iowa that is reading this please stay warm....its a balmy 6 degrees BRRRRRRR!!!
Tuesday, December 10, 2019
Welcome to the Deep Freeze
The current temp: 13 degrees F with a feels like temp of -2 degrees F.......
Yes, its December 10 in Iowa and yes, its cold, and snowing, and yes I realize I live in Iowa. Would someone help me try to explain to my daughter that we live in Iowa...its December...which means it is COLD. This morning as we were getting ready to walk out the door, she was SCREAMING at the top of her lungs about not being able to get her boots on and not being able to get her snow pants in her bag vs asking for help...yes she is 6, but she is also very temperamental and learning how to manage her frustrations....which right now consists of an ear piercing scream and crying, and her poor brother just stands there and waits....pretty sure if his eyes rolled any harder this morning he would be looking at the back of his head all day!! When the ear piercing scream happens the two cats scatter and cower under furniture not knowing when the volcano will erupt.
Also, I have noticed that girls in HS have missed the memo that it is 13 degrees F with a feels like temp of -2 degrees F. They must have forgotten that if you dress warm you will be warm....I know HS is the end all be all, and fashion is the MOST important thing...God forbid you dress for function rather than fashion. Bless their pea picken' hearts... they have to look good, so don't come to me and tell me how cold you are when you are wearing shorts and a hoodie!
Christmas is just a mere 2 weeks from today...and AMEN....that Darn Elf will be gone....Pretty sure after the pass I threw to my husband this morning I would be among the Heisman Trophy prospects....I'm thinking Bilbo, the Elf, will be on strike for the next few days....maybe, just maybe that will help with the ear piercing scream and tempter tantrums....one can only hope!
A friend of mine and I have joined WW, not quite sure what I was thinking as this is the Christmas Season, and there are cookies and drinks, and delicious foods everywhere, but man alive I need to control what goes in my mouth, maybe this will help....otherwise when we are on our trip in February the resort will think a beach whale has arrived at the beach! So, the holiday cheer and enjoyment of food will have to be a minimum... hoping that maybe just maybe I can shed my winter insulation before hitting the beach!
Ok...enough rambling for today....your tip for today...DRESS WARM....it's darn cold out there folks!!!!
Yes, its December 10 in Iowa and yes, its cold, and snowing, and yes I realize I live in Iowa. Would someone help me try to explain to my daughter that we live in Iowa...its December...which means it is COLD. This morning as we were getting ready to walk out the door, she was SCREAMING at the top of her lungs about not being able to get her boots on and not being able to get her snow pants in her bag vs asking for help...yes she is 6, but she is also very temperamental and learning how to manage her frustrations....which right now consists of an ear piercing scream and crying, and her poor brother just stands there and waits....pretty sure if his eyes rolled any harder this morning he would be looking at the back of his head all day!! When the ear piercing scream happens the two cats scatter and cower under furniture not knowing when the volcano will erupt.
Also, I have noticed that girls in HS have missed the memo that it is 13 degrees F with a feels like temp of -2 degrees F. They must have forgotten that if you dress warm you will be warm....I know HS is the end all be all, and fashion is the MOST important thing...God forbid you dress for function rather than fashion. Bless their pea picken' hearts... they have to look good, so don't come to me and tell me how cold you are when you are wearing shorts and a hoodie!
Christmas is just a mere 2 weeks from today...and AMEN....that Darn Elf will be gone....Pretty sure after the pass I threw to my husband this morning I would be among the Heisman Trophy prospects....I'm thinking Bilbo, the Elf, will be on strike for the next few days....maybe, just maybe that will help with the ear piercing scream and tempter tantrums....one can only hope!
A friend of mine and I have joined WW, not quite sure what I was thinking as this is the Christmas Season, and there are cookies and drinks, and delicious foods everywhere, but man alive I need to control what goes in my mouth, maybe this will help....otherwise when we are on our trip in February the resort will think a beach whale has arrived at the beach! So, the holiday cheer and enjoyment of food will have to be a minimum... hoping that maybe just maybe I can shed my winter insulation before hitting the beach!
Ok...enough rambling for today....your tip for today...DRESS WARM....it's darn cold out there folks!!!!
Monday, December 9, 2019
Hello....and welcome
Hello and welcome to my blog....this will be about what it's like to be a "Real Housewife of Iowa". I am a mom of 2 awesome kiddos and the wife of an amazing husband. I have a M.Ed in Psychology and Counseling and I currently work in the HS system.
This blog will take you through the good, bad, ugly and fun parts of what it is like to be a working mom....the ups and downs. Bare with me as this is something new...but I'm hoping to bring a little levity as well as maybe some information to your lives.
This blog will take you through the good, bad, ugly and fun parts of what it is like to be a working mom....the ups and downs. Bare with me as this is something new...but I'm hoping to bring a little levity as well as maybe some information to your lives.
This is my beautiful family.....Husband Matt, Son John (9) and Daughter Claire (6)
I love them dearly and can't imagine life without them....but you will also find out through this journey that being a working mom and wife is sometimes a challenge.
I will also blog about fitness and health as much as I can, as I'm hoping maybe this will keep me accountable.
I hope you find this entertaining and informative!!!
Off to class and to help students....or at least that's what I like to think I am doing! hahahaah
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